Letting the Frequencies Do What You Can’t Force

Most people approach healing the same way they approach life — by trying really, really hard. Yet real healing begins in receivership, that quiet state where we allow instead of control. We think if we just do a bit more, intend a bit harder, visualize a bit longer… voilà! Instant healing, instant enlightenment, instant six-pack abs.

But receivership reveals a very different way. It’s the art of letting go of “doing” long enough for something far wiser to show up. When we stop trying to manage every outcome, we start reconnecting. And when we stop trying to fix, something remarkable happens: the Frequencies of Reconnective Healing® begin to do what we can’t force.

The Misunderstanding About Healing

When I first began working with the Reconnective Healing Frequencies, I was as much of a “doer” as anyone. (A recovering chiropractor, remember?) I thought if I could just adjust energy the way I adjusted vertebrae, people would spring off the table like a human popcorn machine.

Spoiler: that’s not what happened.

What I discovered instead was that the more I tried, the less happened. And the more I stopped trying — the more I relaxed into receivership — the more extraordinary things unfolded. People began to heal in ways no technique could explain.

That’s when it hit me: receivership isn’t passive. It’s potent. It’s where healing happens because it’s where we stop blocking what’s already there.

Why We Struggle With Receiving

If the idea of “receiving” makes you a little uncomfortable, congratulations — you’re human. We’ve built an entire culture on the idea that giving is noble and receiving is suspect. We’ll happily hand out help, advice, or casseroles. But let someone offer us something? Suddenly we’re allergic.

It’s a bit of a collective neurosis, really. We’ve been trained to believe that giving is power and receiving is weakness. But here’s the truth: receiving completes the circuit. Without it, giving just leaks energy into space.

There’s a wonderful piece on our conflicted relationship with giving and receiving that explains this beautifully.

The Frequencies, however, don’t participate in this tug-of-war. They move freely — as long as we stop trying to micromanage them.

Receivership in Practice (or Rather, in Non-Practice)

So how do you “practice” something that isn’t a practice? Here’s a little paradox for you — and a practical how-to list to get started:

1. Stop trying to stop. If you’re trying too hard to relax, you’re still trying. Take a breath. Let the breath take you.

2. Notice without naming. Sensations, images, emotions — observe them without turning them into a story.

3. Let curiosity replace control. You don’t have to direct the Frequencies. You only have to notice how they interact with you.

4. Allow the awkward. It can feel strange at first — like being in a self-driving car and realizing you’re not the one steering. Trust the ride.

5. Stay in wonder. If your mind says, “Am I doing this right?” — you already are. Because receivership isn’t something you do; it’s something you become.

6. End with gratitude, not goals. Let the process unfold beyond your checklist. You don’t have to measure it. You just have to receive it.

Through this, you begin to reveal your path without effort. You start realizing that your real super-power isn’t control — it’s coherence.

Letting the Frequencies Lead

In Reconnective Healing, the Frequencies carry Energy, Light & Information®. They hold an intelligence that organizes, balances, and restores — without our direction. When you engage through receivership, you allow that intelligence to move as it’s meant to.

You stop being the performer and start being the orchestra.

That’s where you begin to reveal your path, one guided not by effort but by resonance. It’s also how you awaken the super-power of healing that has nothing to do with “fixing” and everything to do with being.

Receivership in Everyday Life

Receivership isn’t confined to healing tables. It’s a way of moving through your day with awareness instead of autopilot.

• When someone gives you a compliment — just receive it. Don’t argue with it.

• When a problem shows up — pause. Let the Frequencies reorganize before your mind rushes to repair.

• When life offers you rest — take it. Rest isn’t laziness; it’s recalibration.

You begin to notice that every moment offers an opportunity to receive: a conversation, a sunset, even traffic (yes, even that). Each is an invitation to reveal your path through presence. And that’s where your super-power hides in plain sight — in being available to what’s already here.

The Frequency of Receivership in RH Experiences

If you’ve ever experienced Reconnective Healing® Distance Sessions with me or with Jillian Fleer, you already know this: the most profound shifts happen when you stop “trying to feel something” and just be.

The same principle unfolds in Energy Interactions, a collection of live and recorded experiences where Jillian and I guide you through direct engagement with the Frequencies — no scripts, no “how-to,” just awareness, curiosity, and receivership.

And when you feel drawn to deepen your awareness, The Portal: Reconnective Healing® Online Essentials Course invites you to experience receivership at your own pace — understanding how Energy, Light & Information move in you and through you.

You can even experience our Presence Meditation: Experience Effortless Flow and Healing Energy — twenty minutes of pure receivership without rules or rituals. Think of it as the Frequencies’ way of saying: “Stop trying, we’ve got this.”

And if you’re ready to take this deeper, join us through the Reconnective Healing® learning umbrella at any of our training events worldwide. To learn more, write to us at [email protected], or visit our Events page to find an upcoming program near you.

Control Is Overrated

Look, I’m not saying control has no place in life. It’s great for parallel parking or tax season. But in healing? It’s the biggest speed bump you’ll ever hit.

Receivership invites us to drop the illusion that we cause healing. Healing happens because it’s our nature. When you release the grip of doing, you begin to reveal your path through awareness, not effort. And that, my friends, is your true super-power — not forcing change, but allowing it.

A Final Thought

If you remember only one thing, let it be this: you don’t “achieve” healing — you allow it.

The Frequencies are already present, already complete, already ready to interact with you. All they’re waiting for is your receivership — that quiet, powerful, utterly human willingness to say, “Okay, let’s see what happens if I stop trying to make it happen.”

That’s when the magic begins. Or, as I like to call it, Tuesday.