Some pain arrives like an unexpected storm.
Other pain lingers, quietly taking up residence in our lives. Living with pain can mean waking up with it, eating with it, laughing with friends while it hums in the background, even carrying it when we try to forget.

And when it stays… for weeks, months, sometimes years… we often start to feel like we’re living around it rather than through it.

We try everything we can think of. Doctors, therapies, diets, exercise programs, meditation challenges, the latest “miracle” treatments. And when it doesn’t leave? A quiet voice inside begins to whisper, What’s wrong with me?

From where we stand in Reconnective Healing®, the answer is: Nothing is wrong with you.

Pain Isn’t Your Identity

Pain can be intense, distracting, and exhausting. But you are not the pain. You are still the same infinite, luminous being you were before it arrived. Pain doesn’t diminish you—it just asks to be met, acknowledged, and understood in a new way.

In Reconnective Healing®, we don’t approach pain with the goal of “defeating” it. We invite a different conversation—one that opens to the fullness of who you are beyond the discomfort.

Sometimes, yes, that interaction with the Frequencies leads to change in the pain itself. Other times, the deeper change happens within you:

• The grip it has on your life loosens.

• The constant mental fight quiets.

• You find moments of joy and beauty without waiting for the pain to end.

When We Stop Bargaining with Pain

We often tell ourselves: When this is gone, then I’ll live fully. But what if we stopped postponing life? What if we allowed ourselves to live now, even with this uninvited companion?

What if, instead of pushing against the pain, we simply observed our response to it? We don’t need to understand why it is there—only that it has come into our awareness. Its presence can invite us to explore new ways to move, to feel, and to be. It can open moments of appreciation for people and things we may not have fully seen in their beauty before.

Reconnective Healing® offers a way into this gentle space of receivership—meeting us exactly as we are, without conditions or negotiations.

Gentle Breathing with the Reconnective Healing® Frequencies

This simple practice isn’t about “getting rid” of pain—it’s about opening your attention to something larger than it, and allowing your awareness to soften and expand.

• Find your still point.
  Sit or lie down comfortably. Let your body be supported.

• Breathe with presence.
  Inhale gently through your nose… pause… exhale softly through your mouth. No force, no control—just allowing.

• Invite the Frequencies.
  Slowly raise your hands in front of you, palms relaxed, one slightly higher than the other. Let them hover in the space, and notice—without expectation—any sensations between them: warmth, coolness, tingling, pulsing, stretching, or something subtler.

• Play with the field.
  Move your hands slightly closer together, then farther apart. Tilt or rotate them. Follow your instinct. Feel how the sensations shift and dance in response.

• Let awareness expand.
  As you interact with the Frequencies, notice your attention becoming less fixed on the pain and more open to the whole of your being.

• Rest in receivership.
  Allow yourself to simply be—without asking for anything to change. Breathe in the presence of the Frequencies, breathe out into the vastness of your wholeness.

When you’re ready, lower your hands, but keep the awareness alive. Return to your day with this expanded sense of self—one that includes, but is never limited to, the pain.

The Gentle Surprise

The paradox is that when we release the fight—when we no longer make our worth or happiness conditional on being pain-free—something softens. The constant mental grip loosens. The body no longer braces for a battle. The heart begins to exhale.

In that moment, a new kind of space opens—one that isn’t about the absence of pain, but the presence of you. And in this space, something extraordinary can happen. The mind is no longer searching, the body is no longer defending, and your awareness begins to include more than the discomfort.

It’s often in this openness—this state of receivership—that the Reconnective Healing® Frequencies interact most freely with us. And from there, change may unfold in ways we could never have scripted or forced. Sometimes the pain shifts. Sometimes our relationship to it changes so profoundly that living with pain no longer feels like being imprisoned by it. And sometimes, what changes is everything else—the way we notice beauty, the way we connect with others, the way we allow ourselves to laugh again.

The gentle surprise is this: the freedom you thought would only come after the pain goes away can arrive while it’s still here. And once you’ve tasted that kind of freedom, living with pain no longer gets to be the measure of your life.

Wholeness Is Not the Absence of Pain

Healing in this sense isn’t about erasing symptoms; it’s about returning to wholeness. Wholeness means you can be present in your life, love fully, laugh deeply, and participate in the world—not because the pain is gone, but because you are more than it.

And maybe that’s the real answer to “What do we do with pain that doesn’t go away?”
We remember we are still whole.
We remember life is still here.
And we choose to live it now with Reconnective Healing®.